1. Do what makes you SURVIVE.
Parenting is hard. There will be times where you’ll want to throw in the towel, shut the door and leave your baby to cry it out for 5 minutes… and you know what? THAT’S OKAY. If that is what is going to help you refuel to tackle the bitch fit that your baby is currently having, do it.
Don’t care what other people think because they aren’t the ones dealing with your baby right now.
Too many baby’s lives are taken because their parents become over whelmed and instead of taking the 5 minutes to recuperate they lash out in frustration instead. There are always going to be people who judge you no matter what choice you make, fuck them.

2. It’s okay to Ditch your kids.
It is SO important to not lose yourself after you have children. Your children don’t define you, remember to take time out for yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, I would be a wreck if It wasn’t for my parent’s. I’m more then aware that having extra help is a luxury and I certainly don’t take it for granted. Go out, leave the kids at home. I know that’s easier said than done, luckily for me I’ve never had an issue with separation. I give myself to my children 24 hours a day, 7 days a week so when my parents offer to babysit, CYA BYE. Having that couple of hours away, even if it’s just once a week… keeps me going.

3. Make room for all your kids shit.
KIDS HAVE SO MUCH STUFF, cots, draws, clothes, prams, highchairs, bouncers, toys, play mats, bottles, bibs, bath stuff, swings and THEN SOME. After you have a baby literally every corner and room of your house will hold some kind of baby item, so make the room. Behind every amazingly styled home on Instagram where children live is a room filled with endless amounts of washing and shit that has been sitting for lord knows how long, out of sight out of mind; am I right?

4. You will NEVER stop WASHING
It doesn’t matter how many times a day you put a load of washing on, it will NEVER end.
Your baby can sense when you’ve put the last load on and will “coincidentally” vomit all over their clothes or crib or more than likely you. At any given time, they’re likely to be covered in vomit, snot, poo or wee…  It’s a given, just deal.
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5. Give yourself a break.
You’re not going to have your shit together every day and if you do, I want what you’re having.
Most days I don’t even get out of my pajamas. I can go at least 3 days without brushing my hair and my husband still loves me. If you’re tired, take a nap (yeah right) if you want to sit down and spend the hour that your children sleep scrolling uninterrupted through Instagram, just do it.
Give yourself a break, the housework isn’t going anywhere.

6.Kids clothes are expensive AF
Who would have thought that the smaller the clothes are, the more expensive they are.
I was quick to go and spend loadsssss of dollars on my first born when it came to clothes.
if it wasn’t branded, he wasn’t wearing it. But reality hit when he was born and he was 1# too big for half of the stuff I bought and 2# he vomited and poo’d on EVERYTHING. So many outfits were thrown after being worn for 10 minutes. Kmart are great for kids backyard clothes and It’s all he wears around the house now.

7. Lower your expectations.
They’re only little once and yet we want them to do so much so quickly. My boys are in the 98th% for their size, they both look 6 months older then what they actually are so sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in being frustrated when they can’t do certain things. Often I have to say to people “please don’t, he’s only one” and to myself as well. Especially since bringing Bowie home, they instantly look older. Children get just as frustrated as we do when they aren’t able to achieve things, be patient and encourage them, they’re only little.

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8. Let them BE little
Children learn through PLAY. They thrive off of sensory experiences, let them play in the dirt if that’s what they want to do. Let them paint their bodies instead of the paper they have in front of them.
Let them make a mess in the toy room, their imaginations are wild and something to encourage.

9. Baby wipes are life
Never leave the house without them, no matter what; just don’t do it. In fact you should have a packet of wipes in every room of your house and another packet strapped to your person at all times.

10. All of the love.
Be prepared to love someone more then you’ve ever loved anyone in your life.
Your children fill you with pride, they fill you with joy and they fill you with a love so heavy you can barely stand it. They take your breath away, that make your heart skip. They fuel your inner being and light up your soul. You will never love something the way you love your children, from the minute they’re first placed in your arms, there is nothing but LOVE.

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Hopefully you can relate to some of the stuff I’ve shared with you guys, who knows maybe you’ve learnt something new. I’d love to hear some of the things you’ve learnt since becoming a parent so drop a comment below, thanks for stopping by!

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